Alright so there are a few things about the community that turn me off or make me realize that many guys have a long way to go. Anyway I have a tendency to repeat myself so if I do just ignore it. So here are my biggest pet peeves about the community:
1) Hero worship - Grrrrrr!!! PUA's are not messiahs. They fail! They are human. They sometimes bang less than desirable women. They go nights without approaching. I've seen the majority of them and I admire some of their teachings but I've seen their flaws. You would be surprised! Get off your knees and stop worshiping them. If you're 13-17 it's understandable. If you're 18-24 and still a virgin I can see that. If you're 25 and older and you're worshiping PUA's we need to talk. Also remember that what is preached and works for some gurus doesn't mean it's going to work for you.
2) Player hating! Just as bad as hero worshipping is the guy that hates so and so, thinks his teaching is garbage because it doesn't work for him, jock rides one company and flames another,
worships one guru and scoffs at the others, etc.
3) Rejecting the mainstream: I'll never forget a well respected Ivy league PHD graduate putting out a book about women and a few community guys blasting it by saying that the information contradicts community advice or master guru whoever's theory. I think the IQ level of several community guys dropped a bit on that thought. Just because an article or book was written by someone who isn't a guru or hasn't approached 100,000 sets doesn't mean it isn't worthy, valid or true. I don't think these people got their PHD's at Harvard just sitting around thinking up shit and writing books about it. ' AFC scientist who doesn't get laid is saying that people with similar attributes tend to be attracted to each other and blah, blah, blah' this guy doesn't know what he's talking about, etc. Bullshit, shut up please! Yes there are plenty of paper professors, columnist and speakers who don't understand dating dynamics but I can honestly say there are plenty of so called gurus I've seen who have trouble pulling women and the only ones that manage to pull are drunk sleazy types who would respond to any stimulus.
4) Judging others taste. This my friends is complete bullshit! What you like and what I like aren't the same. One of the best naturals I have ever met, in fact he'd put most of the community guys to shame, is an older black guy who is attracted to mainly tall, amazon like white women with big hips and big butts. He has a weakness for them. To me they are too big and chunky ( I've noticed a lot of black men like bigger women ), I tend to like thin Asian and white girls but I can't fault him because I have seen him pull a 10 that I would go for just for the simple fact that he can. We are too caught up in others opinions to value what we're attracted too. I know one guy who left the community because of that bullshit. He said he got tired of admitting that he liked nerdy girls who weren't model looking or even close but he was attracted to them. The black guy I had mentioned would own most of these guys who ridicule his taste in females! I think we can all agree that Miss Universe pageant contestants are beautiful but that doesn't everyone of us will be sexually interested in those types.
5) Stupid questions and Stupid Answers. Grrrrrr!!! She said this, what do I say next? I said hello to this girl and - "Don't say hello its what AFC's do!" I negged her and she didn't respond what is next? "You shouldn't take her to dinner, she will never be attracted to you now"
I can go forever with this. You get the picture though its the robotic questions and it's the guy who responds with text book answers. BS! Learn to socialize first, it will make things so much easier.
6) Product reliance. In another post I titled products, products, products I talked about a friend who had just about every product known to man yet is success wasn't that much greater than another friend who read forums and an ebook or two. When you rely on products and you're begging for more product it tells me that either you love information or you aren't approaching as many woman as you can and you feel that more products will solve what you're looking for.
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Friday, August 8, 2008
favorite quote from an Instructor
This is my favorite quote from an instructor I hung out with the other day
"It's funny that most of the guys in the community refer to most of the guys outside of the community as AFC's when I've found that a majority of guys in the community suck and I'd actually rather hang out with guys outside of the community because tend to be more grounded"
Yep I've found the same thing in having those guys you meet who say they are in the community and you hang out with them for a night and usually one or two things happen a) they are too scared to even say hello to a woman or b) they try to sarge everything including the cat and throw out way too many unnecessary 'negs' and try to be uber cool.
I think there's this pressure on guys when you meet them and you both know you're in the community to prove yourself to not look like a chump or whatever. Personally I don't give a damn. I'll sit there at the bar drinking Jack and Cokes and talking up a guy while watching babes go by and he'll keep saying "did you see her?" "Why didn't you talk to that one?" Why? Because I don't have too that's why. I'm not at a job, I'm not being scored and I'm not on a mission. When I want to game I game and when I don't I just sit back and chill.
So stop being weird, stop thinking that because you're in this community you know more about women than every other guy that's not in the community, it's okay to help your fellow man but if he doesn't want to have a flock of women or whatever then don't berate him for it - get out of that elitist mindset of us vs them, PUA vs AFC world or whatever dungeons and dragon jargon you have floating around in your head.
"It's funny that most of the guys in the community refer to most of the guys outside of the community as AFC's when I've found that a majority of guys in the community suck and I'd actually rather hang out with guys outside of the community because tend to be more grounded"
Yep I've found the same thing in having those guys you meet who say they are in the community and you hang out with them for a night and usually one or two things happen a) they are too scared to even say hello to a woman or b) they try to sarge everything including the cat and throw out way too many unnecessary 'negs' and try to be uber cool.
I think there's this pressure on guys when you meet them and you both know you're in the community to prove yourself to not look like a chump or whatever. Personally I don't give a damn. I'll sit there at the bar drinking Jack and Cokes and talking up a guy while watching babes go by and he'll keep saying "did you see her?" "Why didn't you talk to that one?" Why? Because I don't have too that's why. I'm not at a job, I'm not being scored and I'm not on a mission. When I want to game I game and when I don't I just sit back and chill.
So stop being weird, stop thinking that because you're in this community you know more about women than every other guy that's not in the community, it's okay to help your fellow man but if he doesn't want to have a flock of women or whatever then don't berate him for it - get out of that elitist mindset of us vs them, PUA vs AFC world or whatever dungeons and dragon jargon you have floating around in your head.
Friday, August 1, 2008
are you a candidate for greatness?
Whats makes one a candidate for mPUA / Guru or Natural status? I was thinking about this one night when I watched this guy out laughing and having everyone else around him entertained. While I didn't see him pull any babes I couldn't help but to notice how entertaining and fun he was and it made me realize that some guys are suited for greatness more than others. It's just like some guys being suited more to play college level or professional sports than other guys or any other walk of life. So when it comes to pickup here is what I think is a criteria for a person to become great:
1) Charisma (personality)
2) humor
3) courage
Thats it! Yep that about wraps up the things that are the criteria for being great. You confidence, and all of those other things can be worked on a grow but I've noticed guys with robotic/bland personalities and poor humor do poorly in this field. A guy I went to high schoool with was tall, well built and decent looking but he was the most boring, bland guy you'd ever meet. Granted he pulled his share of girlfriends but he always got dumped and when I would ask the girls why they'd say "he was boring, he never had anything to talk about, his jokes were awful" and so on. On the contrary one of my community friends was a class clown like someone who was a Saturday Night Live reject but still funny and had a good personality to say the least. He did very well with women when he discovered the community but he wasn't active that much in the community, instead he was always out and around town meeting women, going on dates and such. Humor and charisma are huge! Courage is just balls but guys with balls also do well yet you can't have balls and be fearless when it comes to talking to women if you don't have anything to say or no sense of humor.
Like I said the other things you can learn and gain in time: confidence, intrigue, rapport skills etc but if you want to be on top you have to have a personality to begin with.
1) Charisma (personality)
2) humor
3) courage
Thats it! Yep that about wraps up the things that are the criteria for being great. You confidence, and all of those other things can be worked on a grow but I've noticed guys with robotic/bland personalities and poor humor do poorly in this field. A guy I went to high schoool with was tall, well built and decent looking but he was the most boring, bland guy you'd ever meet. Granted he pulled his share of girlfriends but he always got dumped and when I would ask the girls why they'd say "he was boring, he never had anything to talk about, his jokes were awful" and so on. On the contrary one of my community friends was a class clown like someone who was a Saturday Night Live reject but still funny and had a good personality to say the least. He did very well with women when he discovered the community but he wasn't active that much in the community, instead he was always out and around town meeting women, going on dates and such. Humor and charisma are huge! Courage is just balls but guys with balls also do well yet you can't have balls and be fearless when it comes to talking to women if you don't have anything to say or no sense of humor.
Like I said the other things you can learn and gain in time: confidence, intrigue, rapport skills etc but if you want to be on top you have to have a personality to begin with.
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