Monday, March 2, 2009

Who has game and what does that mean?

I can remember the first time I started learning all of this stuff after months and months of reading forums I would go out to the clubs and start shaking my head at all the guys who didn't know what I knew. This was way before the 'Book' came out when routine based game was as hot as a new boy band and everything was secret and undetectable.
I remember in particular always seeing this black guy out talking straight up to women and thinking to myself that he has no clue. Funny thing was he always pulled women. Now these weren't 10's or even 9's, in fact most were 6's and 7's but he rarely ever failed when it came to leaving the club with a girl. Now while I was reading palms, and play fighting with women he was in the car probably making out or going home with some chick. At the time I thought his game was lame, talking straight up while looking in the girls eyes and not holding back his intentions - he got shot down a lot but he also pulled alot. Contrast that with the number of PUA gurus I've seen out in the field drinking at the bar, talking to sets and then leaving or slapping hands and saying "you guys look like fun" without much else else going on.
Don't get me wrong, I've seen plenty of PUA gurus and instructors pull and myself, I've pulled my number of women but I've never seen guys pull the way you would think they pull from reading their marketing letters, seeing their "hey take a picture with me hot girl" photos, or from their field report testimonials on a consistent basis. Have I seen gurus pull hot babes? Yes! Consistently? No! I would say I've seen average Joes outside of the community pull just as consistently as I've seen these guys. And trust me I've seen about 90 percent of the guys in everyone's top 10 list who live in the continental US. None are bad, but none have blown my mind. You have guys now talking about 'natural and direct' well honestly the most natural and direct guy I've ever seen is that older black guy I would often see at the clubs pulling girls. I wish I could find that guy.
I'll repeat this over and over again. The community is a business now. And anytime you run a business the first goal is PROFIT. I've been fortunate to have had friends who were instructors, moderators, interns, teachers etc in the business and I've seen the inside and out. I remember one (who probably wouldn't mind me typing this) of them sitting at his iMac for hours while I was playing Halo 2 in his room on his XBox and all he was doing was reading every post he could find and taking notes. He sat on that PC from like 6pm to 1am with coffee and a word editing program open and noting everything that interest him. Months later he was marketing a new breakthrough product to the community which was based on all of his notes (but wasn't marketed that way). He would get up and take breaks and say man you have to stay on top of this information and keep mouths hungry. Ironically none of his findings were thoroughly field tested.

So I guess I can say I don't know where I'm going with this. As I've said before I'm starting to wonder if guys are running out of ideas for teaching some concepts that have been processed over and over again. I never was very profitable at poker now matter much I read but most of what I've learned about the game was from sitting at an actual table and playing for hours not from watching WSOP and devouring books. This community is the same way. It's fun to talk about but the only way to really get good is to be like that black guy I mentioned and just go out and don't worry about failing.

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