How do you game a 10!

Seriously you see this a lot am I right? Well heres the answer. You game a 10 the same way you game a 9. And you game a 9 the same way you game a 8 and you game an 8 the same way you game a 7 on down to 1! Now if you're gaming 1's we need to talk. There's no reason to game a 1 or 2 all the way up to a 5. Yes I've banged a 4 and a 5, together they were a 9. No seriously I don't game numbers! I game women. So gaming a 1 and a 10 is the same but different. In other words you may have thin, athletic beautiful blond at the bar and big, chunky not so attractive brunette at the bar. I talk to them the same. You may say hello to the blonde and she may smile and say hello back and the next thing you're in a conversation with a beautiful women. You may say hello to the overweight brunette and she may ignore you or ask why you're talking to her. You get it? You game women not numbers! Everyone is different. Tammy may have a hard shell around her, Jennifer may be warm and receptive. Notice I didn't say how attractive or unattractive each girl was. I've gamed 10's with simple conversation starters that led to dates afterwards, and I've had a time and a half gaming 7's using everything in the toolbox only to have a flake and vice versa. Numbers don't matter who she is does.
So the question is who is the girl you're gaming? What does she do? What are her ambitions in life? Who are her friends? What's her favorite music? How close is she with her family? All of these little questions and observations give you insight into the type of girl you're gaming. Not just her face and waste size. Remember that.

You can get any girl you want - NOT!

Thats what I see pitched often and to guys who are new they believe it. I can't tell you how many times I've read that it must be great being a PUA and being able to go into a bar and pickup any girl you choose. Uh it doesn't quite worked that way. I've seen top notch instructors blown out of sets continuously. I've also seen them pull some very attractive women (to those nay sayers who say none of it works) I've seen women scream, curse out, blow off, even throw their drinks on guys in my days. And I've seen guys walk out with the hottest women in the club. I've seen the so called masters get blown out only to be followed by some unknown dork in the club who picked up the same girl that previously blew out Mr Master PUA. I've seen it all happen and that's the beauty of the Game - you never know what will happen. There is no fixed outcome. Live and learn.

You want to get good?

I know everyone who is in the community wants to get good. They want to see what things are like on the other side of the fence. I was the same way. I was reading tons and writing down techniques and things to say and keeping them in a 4 1/2 by 3 1/4 inch notebook that fit in my back pocket and I took it with me everywhere. Before the days of boot camps it was trial and error. I went out 3 nights a week due to my job. To me going out 7 nights meant you either worked a schedule that allowed you to and you lived in a happening city where something went on all the time (NY, LA) or you were obsessed or whatever but 3 nights was good enough for me. One thing that occurred to me and made me realize the game is tough but not is tough is some make it out to be is that a big part of this game is just having the balls to talk to women. Yes that's it. Have a pair of balls to go out and talk to women and have something interesting to say when you do. If you can do that you'll beat out most of the guys out there. It also helps to look and smell nice. Why and how do you think that normal looking guy met that beautiful girl and trust me there's always a few in the club? Yep, he talked to her, he wasn't pushy or afraid and she actually went out with him and dug him. That's it! No DHV story, no social proof, no neg just straight up conversation while being relaxed, and not sweating over her. Trust me I talked to plenty of girls who said just that: "oh he just came up and talked to me and he was funny and cool"
So the next time you think about forking over $2500 for a bootcamp or spending 10 hours watching the next mindblowing 'no one is teaching this shit' $750 product try going out and having conversations with women over and over and asking them to go out with you sometimes and leave the bullshit "every AFC does that, I did that and it didn't work" excuses home and get your ass out there.

The Community - A Beautiful Mess

I was always asked to start a blog. I've been on the internet for how long? Since '98 and I'm just getting around to starting one and I'm beginning my blog with my rant on a community I was a part of off and on since 1999. I've seen it grow into the beautiful mess it's become. Back when I was involved it was kind of cool, secretive and a great way to learn while killing time from your boring 9 to 5. mASF was this hotbed of information with guys from all over sharing their input on how to meet women. I left the forums and scene around the end of 2003 because I was in a relationship and didn't want to spend anymore time reading the forums. I jumped back in right after 'The Game' was released - I knew what was coming. I said to my friend either this is the beginning of the end or the end and a new beginning.
Companies sprang up like the industrial revolution. New pua's were coming out of nowhere
and reproducing like flies. Gurus were crowned (most of them sucked, only a handful were actually good) and a new beginning dawned.
I have to say in the years I was learning I actually became decent. Not great by any means but pretty decent. I had the pleasure and pain of dating girls that worked at Hooters, night clubs, make-up counters, etc. I never took a bootcamp or purchased an overpriced DVD set; that stuff wasn't even out when I was active (well a few bootcamps were being taught but DVD's and CD's weren't out) only a few ebooks and a ton of post on the forums.
Most of my time was spent reading the forums and going out to practice after a long day at work.
I remember going to work and sitting on the phones talking to customers and trying to read new post by guys who had good information and knowledge and anticipating getting off work so I could hit up a bar or wherever and trying things out. I remember getting excited when I picked up a girl who worked at Hooters who was very gorgeous and friendly too; she wanted to come over to my place and watch movies and have drinks and I wanted to go out because I wanted to everyone else to see me with her. I learned through experience that many of us choose eye candy because we want to flaunt eye candy not because we are genuinely attracted to the girl.

Back then the community to me was like being 12 on Christmas Day. Now it's like being 30 on Christmas Day. You start to see the commercialism and it leaves you with a rather less than impressive feeling. I know it does for many who have been around for awhile who aren't a part of the cash cow it's become. I don't know what the future is for the community. Some guys say every guy needs this. I don't think so. To me this was for the guys who really wanted to learn the tricks of the trade when it comes to meeting women, yet I've rarely seen any of these guys, guru or not being good with relationships.